Swinging, also known as sharing, partner or wife swapping, or sometimes "The Lifestyle" is simply consenting adults enjoying the experience of having sexual relationships with multiple partners.
Swinging has become a lifestyle due to the ease of identifying and contacting people who want to live out the same fantasies.
Who are Swingers?
The main definitions of Swingers are people who;
enjoy having sex with other people as well as, and along with, their regular partner
enjoy watching their partner have sex with someone else .
enjoy sharing their fantasies with their partner and other people.
enjoy having sex with lots of people.
The main criteria for being a swinger is that you are open and honest with yourself, your regular partner and the people you meet.
Who Swings?
Anyone and everyone can be a swinger. Swingers are not defined by social class or religion, nor by age, as long as they are over the legal age of consent.
Most swingers do not discriminate against others on grounds of age, colour, religion or class. However everyone has the right to choose who they do not play with, as if there is no attraction there will be no enjoyment.
Swinging Couples.
Many couples enjoy fantasizing about having sex with other people, more and more of these people are deciding to make these fantasies become a reality, which is great news for the people already in the scene, as we always enjoy having new people come and join us. There are of course pitfalls and there are several things you should consider before you come and join in the fun.
Don't push or pull your partner into the scene.
Talk about your fantasies in the cold light of day, if you both want to make them become a reality, then start making contact with people. If either one of you is not ready, STOP.
IF YOUR PARTNER IS NOT READY.... !!!!!
Dragging a reluctant partner to meet another couple, or taking them to a party is not going to make them change their minds. There is a very high risk that it will lead to the end of your relationship with each other.
Decide what your boundaries are.
Don't go along to your first meeting or party without making sure you have agreed on what you are happy doing, what you are happy for your partner to do, and what area's are no go zones.
When you get home that night, talk about the experience, be it good or bad, make sure you were both OK with it, and that you both want to move forward, or you want to stop.
If you are happy and want to move forward, decide what changes, if any, you want to make to the rules under which you both play. Never step outside your boundaries without agreement, don't try to modify the boundaries on the evening, always start the evening knowing exactly what is and is not allowed.
I have seen people get divorced because they did not keep to their agreements.
Never fall in love!
Swinging is about having fun with other people. Most of these people are in happy relationships and are looking for sex, not love. Declaring your love for someone is going to complicate the issues, and put strains on everyone's relationships, you could even destroy the other persons marriage.
